My first IVF consult is this Thursday. It is less than 3 days away. I’m freaking out. It doesn’t help that Blue wont be there with me, at least my mom will be, guess I’ll never grow up!
I have a whole list typed out of what I want to ask. I even have a printed list of what I need to do before Thursday so I’m ready. Normally lists help calm me, but this time around it isn’t working.
The fertiles of this world love to tell the infertiles to “just relax”. It happens often enough that there are whole blogs titled after that ridiculous but frequent comment.
Here is my response: I did relax. I relaxed for the first 6 months we tried. I relaxed for as long as it took you to make it through your first trimester, maybe even second if this hypothetical fertile got pregnant the first month she tried.
It’s easy to relax when “trying” is still fun. After that you don’t get to just relax anymore, you get to chart, go to gobs of doctors appointments, get blood drawn countless times, take drugs that make you crazy, etc.
Working harder at being stress free is even more stressful. Acupuncture appointments? What will I tell my boss when I need to take yet another hour off of work for a doctor’s appointment once a week? Pretty soon he’s going to think I have cancer. As it is I have to take the whole day off Thursday to drive 3 hours for my IVF consult.
Being an infertile is a full time job. In fact I’ve spent the entire morning while at work just trying to get prepared for this doctors appointment, googling ridiculous things, etc.
Anyway, here is my current list of questions for Dr. BFP. Are there anymore you think I should add? Maybe with your additions I’ll feel prepared enough to relax a little?
1. What protocols do you use for Endo patients?
2. Being a 26 year old stage 3 endo girl what are my chances of success?
3. Immunology testing, natural killer cells, antiphospholipid antibodies? Intralipids administration pre-IVF?
4. Hormone tests needed before I can start BCPs again and enjoy life pain free for a few months?
5. Should I have another laparoscopy before to clean up endo/cysts?
6. Ultrasound monitoring: Who are good docs to work with? Have you worked with Base docs before?
7. When would I need to be there (since its 3 hours away)?
8. Do I need to be on bed rest after transfer?
9. Are there any supplements I need to take for the next few months to get ready?