Tuesday, February 28, 2012


Yesterday I was struggling with the idea of blogging at all, especially in the world of ALI (adoption, loss and infertility) and writing about my life with out offending anyone.  Today I feel great, partly because of the incredibly sweet comments I got yesterday and partly because I happened upon the most perfect of posts this morning. 

Apparently I’m not the only PIF (pregnant after infertility) blogger who is feeling torn!  Elphaba has put together a blogroll for PIFs, much like Mel's blogroll for IFs.  She’s calling it P.A.I.L (parenting/pregnant after infertility & loss). 


I’m so glad someone finally put together a group where we can feel supported in both our pregnancies/parenting and in our histories of infertility/loss.  It really is a unique situation to be in, but it turns out, not as unique when you find a whole list of bloggers in your same shoes.

I really feel like this will allow me to feel free to blog about not only the facts but also the feelings (good and bad) that come along with pregnancy and eventually parenting after infertility.  The truth is sometimes its not all sunshine and lollipops and it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who feels that way.

**on a side note, I think it’s a little funny that adding my name to a list has given me such a sense of freedom, but I guess we all just strive to belong somewhere?.... **


  1. I feel like you have just given me the ability to be able to continue blogging. I don't think I can ever thank you enough :)

  2. Thank you so much for pointing me towards this great resource. I'm not sure what is in my blogging future, but having a community of people in the same circumstance for support is a great comfort.

    P.S. So glad you are hanging in there and staying positive.

  3. Thanks so much for this! A place where I fit in! This is so perfect!

  4. Couldn't agree with you more! I too was very happy to discover Elphie's post and felt that it was a perfect place for me to fit in. We all just want to belong somewhere, don't we? Perhaps this will make you feel better about continuing to blog. Thinking of you!

  5. I think that is just the greatest idea! I'm still in the trenches, but was wondering what I was going to do when (not if...I refuse to say if) I made it to the other side.

    I'm happy to hear that you're feeling more positive about blogging. I hope you continue with your blog. The drama seems to be inevitable, whether on blogs or message boards, etc., but I hate seeing it ruin things - making blogs disappear or breaking up buddy groups or hurting the community.

  6. What a great idea! I wish this had been around when I was pregnant/new mom...

    It was so hard... I went from being in an infertility group to having graduated & as much as they were all happy for me & rooting me on, especially when I landed on bedrest, there was a part of them that was sad that it wasn't them.

    It is hard when you feel so out of alignment with your support network & I think it is great you guys are making lemonade out of the unknown.

  7. We all just want to belong. :)

    I'm glad you happened across my post!