Friday, January 20, 2012

What's in a name?

Naming your little one after infertility is an adventure. 

The first thing Blue and I did when we started trying was lie in bed and giggle about silly baby names, but that was back in the days where TTC was fun and new.  After a while it was painful to think about baby names, they were just another reminder of the little one I didn’t have in my belly. 

About a year into our journey with IF Blue and I fell in love with the name Lincoln and after that there was no question, we would have a Lincoln.  Then the Lincoln dilemma happened…  Quick recap, about a month before our gender scan family friends had a son and announced his name was Lincoln. 

Without fail every name you love gets ruined by a fertile, either some idiot you didn’t like from high school stole it (which you wouldn’t even know about if it weren’t for stupid Fertilebook) or your best friend, cousin, coworker, etc. already used it.  Either way all your favorites are gone by the time you get to them. 

I just couldn’t get past the shared name thing, Linc no longer felt right…

Blue and I wrote down baby names everyday after that, texted them when they came to mind, etc.  By the time his gender reveal came around we had about 20 boy’s names we liked, the operative word was liked, not loved. 

So one night Blue challenged me and said “let’s pick his name tonight.”  That seemed extreme to me, too quick, but I decided we could at least narrow down the list.  At the last minute we each threw on one more name and then name by name started shortening the list.

We finally got down to three names.  One that had some family significance and the two we added at the last minute, and then there was one...  But, the planner in me couldn’t pick our baby’s name in one night!  So, we agreed to try calling him by it in private for a while and see if it stuck, and it did.


I wrote this in the Maui sand for you guys!

The reason we picked Marek (besides loving it) is because Blue was very close with his grandpa who was Polish and so to honor him we decided to use a Polish name (it is kind of like the equivalent of Mark in Poland.)  In Poland it is pronounced Mah-deck, we will make it easy on him and pronounce it the American way, Mer-eck.

His middle name is my maiden name, a shortened version of it is Dewy which was my nickname and my grandpa’s nickname growing up and so we’ll use Dewy for a nickname.

Blue and I mostly call him Marek now, but sometimes Mer.  His sister and her kids (3 and 5) call him Baby Dewy, which is so cute to hear.  The rest of the family seems to switch back and forth between the two.  I’m super happy with our choice and feel like it just fits.

27 comments:

  1. This was on our list! I love it! :) It will be a perfect name for him!

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  2. Love it! Unique and special without being wierd! Cute on a baby and could still lead a boardroom.

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  3. What a wonderful name! I love that you are using family names!

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  4. I love it! I think names should have meaning too. :D

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  5. It's so exciting to have a name and be thinking about your baby as a little man... Also, you have really nice sand handwriting! If I had done that everyone would have responded "great name, we think... what does it say again???"

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  6. I loooove this name! It's in my top 10 list and we're far enough away from you that I wouldn't feel bad ripping it off if we ever shake this infertility crap and actually have a kid (a boy kid)!

    Oh, BTW, I don't know if I've ever commented on your blog, so hi!

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  7. Glad you had a nice vacation and I just LOVE his name!! What a neat way to announce it too, with the pic of the sand <3!

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  8. Congratulations on this hard fought for baby! That is a beautiful name and what a lovely way to announce. I know 2012 is going to be an incredible year for you and your family. <3 from ICLW!

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  9. It is so frustrating when people close to you use the name you fall in love with. Our close friends used our boys name and it totally annoyed me at the time although it was 7 years ago now. I am still waiting to be able to use any name! I guess we should not have shared it with them as they had never mentioned it before.

    I am glad you found a name you both love and that means something to you.

    By the way I found your blog from ICLW :0)

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  10. We also are struggling to come up with a name. The names you chose are so perfect for your family.

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  11. Beautiful name! I love it. Happy ICLW, btw. Sorry about your last post where you were frustrated with Blue and told you should stop gaining weight at the rate you are. Ugh. Don't worry too much about it though. You look beautiful and healty to me!!! :-)

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  12. Great name! :)
    I'm having twins and we picked the boy's name easily, but hadn't really thought much about the girl's. Then one night my husband sat down and looked at baby name websites and threw out a girl name that he loved and then started calling our baby girl by that name. I was like...wait a minute...you can't spend 15 minutes on the web and have a name for our girl! We too used it in private for a while to see if it would work. The name has stuck and we both love it...

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  13. What a fabulous name! I love that it has personal significance to you and Blue. I think that's the best. After we revealed Ian's name to our families, The Prince's mom surprised us by telling us that Ian was what she had planned to name The Prince until she changed her mind at the last minute. I thought that was a pretty neat coincidence. I'm so happy for you and Blue (and Marek).

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  14. We recently had a fertile friend that named their daughter something my husband LOVED. We have yet to get pregnant so it's not like we can be too mad....

    Great name!

    ICLW #17

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  15. What a cute and unique name! Love it! I was always so worried a name we loved would be "stolen" by a fertile... But, we were lucky that didn't happen.

    I love that you call it FertileBook, so true!!!

    ICLW #75

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  16. What an adorable name! I am stumbling on you for the first time thanks to ICLW! I would love to feature your success story on my blog (which I try to do on Sundays). Here's a link to the Q & A format: http://stressfreeinfertilityblog.com/2010/01/17/calling-all-success-stories/ Thanks so much in advance! You'd be an inspiration to so many!

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  17. Hi from ICLW! What a fantastic name! I love it! I am also in love with Lincoln, which DH has turned down several times. Ugh! I'm still keeping it in the running, though. Much luck to you, Blue, and Baby Dewy!

    ICLW #60

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  18. Hi from ICLW! That name is adorable. :) One of the kids I nanny for is Ashton Marek and I kinda fell in love with Marek. Too bad it's taken and I can't get over the same name thing either. Oh well.

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  19. I love it!! I'm glad you two found a name that you love!!!

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  20. Here from ICLW! I love the name!!! Totally understand about having your names "taken" -- actually, the same thing happened with us and Lincoln! But we found a name that we LOVE LOVE LOVE. :) Congrats on your pregnancy. Having a son rocks!!!

    #49

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